- a coming out that is on your schedule
- a coming out that makes it easier for you to take
- a coming out that cherry-picks who knows according to your standards
- a coming out that makes sense
- a coming out that happens after certain transition milestones (HRT, surgery, therapy, etc.)
- a coming out, period.
If you’ve never had to come out as anything, don’t tell me how I should’ve just sat someone down and did it or tell me other ways of how I should’ve done it. Even if you have, coming out is different for somebody else and it’s easy to have this idea of how it should have went down if you aren’t actually that person.
Especially if you’re straight or cis, please check your privilege and don’t tell me how to come out. You’ll just look like an ass.
Reblogged it before, and I will reblog it again.
Reblogged for my loving partner. You’re fantastic and you don’t owe anyone a goddamn thing, bb.
mischa's brain farts: face-down-asgard-up: Sorry, my fellow white people. But we really...
Sorry, my fellow white people. But we really don’t get to go around making distinctions and caveats when it comes to racist people.
“He was racist, but I don’t wanna say he was because he did some good things that benefited POC a few times.”
What does this add to the…
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Trans* People Don’t Owe You:
misandry isn’t real, dudez
I’m a guy, and I need feminism. Not “men’s rights.” Feminism. Here is why.
Everything that MRAs talk about that men can’t do or are socially punished for arise directly and immediately from misogyny. Not “misandry.” Misogyny.
Whether I am expressing my emotions, playing with children, baking, having sex wherein I am penetrated in any way, wearing the wrong color, talking the wrong way, moving the wrong way, being sexually harassed/assaulted, or paying too little attention to looking like I’m not paying attention to how I look, when society punishes me or derides me or marginalizes me for these things, it is happening because they are things women, not men, are expected to do, and our society at large fucking hates women.Has that sunk in yet?
Men, can you even think of a single goddamn way you have ever been mocked that wasn’t related to something that a misogynist society sees as feminizing? Even when large men are mocked for their bodies, they are referred to as having “man-boobs,” for fucks sake.
How do you expect to improve those things with “men’s rights?” What right are you fighting for? I can tell you what I think you’re fighting for. I think you’re fighting for the right to contain and control misogyny, and direct it back at women, where you think it belongs. You want to maintain your privilege but erase its consequences, and that’s why your movement is farcical; it’s a big fucking feedback loop. How do you expect men to be free from the peripheral effects of misogyny when you refuse to even fucking believe it’s real?
Well here is a good post.
*slow clap*
Did anyone notice…
Obama mentions his wife in his victory speech: “…The woman who agreed to marry me 20 years ago”
Romney mentions his wife in his concession speech: “… The woman I chose to marry”
It’s amazing how someone’s views on equality can come out in one simple sentence
People are uncomfortable with sexuality that’s not for male consumption.
— Erykah Badu (via winifredjay)
Ironically enough, the same rebellious youths who wear Che Guevara shirts most likely would’ve been targeted by Guevara had they grown up in Cuba. Guevara considered anyone who listened to rock and roll music, who wore his hair long, or who spoke up against him a delinquent.
His very goal was to, “make individualism disappear from the nation!” He considered it, “criminal to think of individuals!” Perhaps these young American individualists should think twice before brandishing the picture of a man who persecuted “hippies, homosexuals, free-thinkers and poets,” and who employed constant surveillance, control, and repression.
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Che Guevara: Exposing myths about a murderer (via stillmindstillcosmos)
What is it with the left and self-loathing?
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So I guess this would be a good opportunity to pimp my friend, Tim Norton’s Che/Kanye/hipster t-shirt.
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I don’t like this expression ‘First World problems.’ It is false and it is condescending. Yes, Nigerians struggle with floods or infant mortality. But these same Nigerians also deal with mundane and seemingly luxurious hassles. Connectivity issues on your BlackBerry, cost of car repair, how to sync your iPad, what brand of noodles to buy: Third World problems. All the silly stuff of life doesn’t …disappear just because you’re black and live in a poorer country. People in the richer nations need a more robust sense of the lives being lived in the darker nations. Here’s a First World problem: the inability to see that others are as fully complex and as keen on technology and pleasure as you are.
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Nigerian author and artist Teju Cole (via xkimberlyx)
This combined with reading Open City last year has cemented by fierce, unapologetic love for Teju Cole.
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YES i have been struggling with how to articulate this
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Just because people are doing what it takes to be appropriate in different contexts, to protect their safety, and to make certain that they are not judged out of context, doesn’t mean that everyone is a huckster. Rather, people are responsibly and reasonably responding to the structural conditions of these new media. And there’s nothing acceptable about those who are most privileged and powerful telling those who aren’t that it’s OK for their safety to be undermined. And you don’t guarantee safety by stopping people from using pseudonyms, but you do undermine people’s safety by doing so. Thus, from my perspective, enforcing “real names” policies in online spaces is an abuse of power.
— danah boyd | apophenia » “Real Names” Policies Are an Abuse of Power
An excellent post, with comments also worth reading, on why enforcing a “real names” policy on the internet is really just another exercise of power by people with privilege.
An excellent post, with comments also worth reading, on why enforcing a “real names” policy on the internet is really just another exercise of power by people with privilege.
It’s like that poem I read… back in Alaska, there’s a poem from Africa. I wanna read it to you: When I born, I black. When I grow up, I black. When I go in sun, I black. When I scared, I black. And when I die, I still black. When you’re white, when you born, you pink. When you grow up, you white. When you go in sun, you red.. and yet you call me colored? See…. see… this is what I mean. We are all diverse. White people are just as colored. We don’t carry any privilege.
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Sarah Palin, September 2008, Judson Baptist College, Huntsville Alabama. (via sarahpalinquotes)
OH GOD, I CAN’T EVEN
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Wow…
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How does this in any way, shape, or form translate to white people not having privilege? God I hate this woman.
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Lawsonry » Look, Kitten, I Am Too A Feminist! Fauxminism and Men
This is quite good, excellent even.
The supremely unreflective, privileged dudes in the comments are another matter.
